Do Not Complain
“You can complain that roses have thorns or celebrate that thorns have roses”
People who complain over and over are permanently triggering their negativity bias, a normal instinct of the brain developed as a survival mechanism to pay attention only to what is wrong, bad or threatening.
Remember: Complaining never makes anything better.
Noticing that something is wrong is OK, but complaining is a mind-trap that leads to be constantly “in the box” reducing our vision and our alternatives, draining our energy.
Solve, Leave, or Observe, what are the options?
• Solve what is wrong if possible is logically the best choice, and we should feel thankful when this alternative is available.
• If solving the issue is not in our hands, we must evaluate whether Leaving the situation is a possibility. In many cases, just letting it go is the best we can do.
• When we neither can solve or leave, we enter in the terrain of acceptance and compassion because it would be a big waste of energy thinking or talking about it. The best option then is taking some distance and Observe the situation with curiosity, as a witness, ideally compensating its negativity by also observing other good things around us.
